Life is full of opportunities. It never ceases to serve them up. While we are alive, opportunities big and small roll past like goodies on a conveyor belt. All we have to do is take our courage, reach out and grasp them.
The Universe wants us to take them - at least that is my belief. So why don't we?
Life is mostly about relationships. In other words, this never ending conveyor belt of golden opportunities usually comes in the form of other people and what they offer us. It is our interaction with our fellow man that sets things up, orchestrates experiences and makes things happen. Unless we are living in a vacuum we cannot avoid other people, and it is those people who are an integral part of the creation of opportunity for us in this world.
Some people are people people. They love humanity, and have no trouble being in the thick of it. They talk and communicate with ease, and as the chances flow, so do they. They become magically successful in their chosen field, and others wonder how they came to do it so effortlessly. And what is more, other people like people people. They are drawn to them and feel comfortable. They are more likely to be open and responsive to a welcoming smile and friendly countenance. Good things can come of it, and it is easy to see why.
But not everyone is that way inclined. Thank goodness some might say! What about those who are not so happy surrounded by crowds - what about those who are so afraid of being hurt and let down, they would rather stay home alone. When opportunities come to those who fear in this way, they cannot hope to take them. The pain of reaching out is too severe - it feels like suicide! Why would I want to set myself up for rejection? Why would I want to fail? What good could possibly come from sticking my neck out? And of course no good does come, because the opportunity is soon let to pass, and all that is left is the shadow of loss we know so well. Our old companion, and in a sense the provider of an illusion of safety behind which we can hide, makes sure we live on in familiar regret.
Is this what separates the winners from the losers, the happy from the sad, the content from the frustrated - and all the other polarities in this world? Is it because we deliberately resist the opportunities that come to us in the flow of life, we turn our backs, dig in, and refuse to go with the god given? Is this what makes us feel so bad and unfulfilled that eventually we turn on each other, or simply shrivel up and fade away!
When I think back over my day, I can see the chances I had to do things differently and better. I could have given someone more time, and who knows where the conversation may have led. I could have put more effort into something and another outcome created. All along the day, chances came and went, and if I am honest, I mostly looked the other way.