I love the cat that curls on my lap and warms my heart with her soft purr. I love the way she gently pushes against me and threads through my legs in greeting. I love the feel of her glossy coat, and the look of her little paws. She is so sweet when she naps on her cushion on the window cill. I love the cat.
But this cannot be love, because it is conditional. I do not love the cat when she kills the birds I love. I do not love her at all. I hate what she does, and I cannot justify it. It makes me sick to the stomach and I want to kill the cat myself. This is not love. This is saying "You must do what I want, or I will not love you!" This is the very worst of what us humans do... This is how we entrain our children and poison our relationships - by withdrawing love that isn't really love at all - because love, real love, IS unconditional, and flows freely no matter what.
How do I keep loving in the face of things of which I do not approve or understand? How do I do that?
I suppose I have to ask myself is it love at all if I can turn it on or off so easily...?
Love - real Love - just IS.
Judgment leads to suffering, and there is no love in suffering - only pain. Judgment is false as it is built on beliefs handed down, not on lives lived in openess. Judgment hurts everyone because it separates us, one from another. I am right - you are wrong.
I say the cat is wrong for killing the bird. The cat has a different point of view The bird has none, and I miss the space where the bird once was and I feel the pain of separation. The cat moves on. The bird moves on. I stay with my attachment and my judgment, and I suffer.