Regular readers of my blogs will know, these blessed folks can be are our greatest teachers. They bring us wonderful opportunities for learning, and after all these years we are ready for these types by now, we know their little game! We are on to them... They can't catch us out anymore, because we have the knowledge to make our choices about how we are going to react... even if it is usually after they've gone home.
But what about others? What about the ones that never make us angry, but my goodness the emotion they bring can carve us up none-the-less?
These are the ones we know we love, but feel such pain to be around we unconsciously find reasons not to share a space with them. These are the ones that make us feel our sadness.
If, like me, you are awash with the stuff, to find someone who reveals it to you is challenging indeed. Like a mirror, they reflect straight back to you all the broken hearted emotions, the grief, the despair and hopelessness you carry inside. It isn't overt, it isn't demonstrated by a pile of quivering, sobbing jelly at your feet, it is subtle and simple, because it is your - my - our - deepest Truth.
Anger is a fiery and powerful emotion that moves mountains with metaphorical, and sometimes actual, flying fists and fury. Anger is the great destroyer - but it is also the bringer of change and that can ultimately mean new creation. Like the Goddess Kali, who blasts in with a power that takes no prisoners, this emotion can be transformative, chasing away the old paradigm and opening up a space for something new.
Sadness is subtle. It holds us back, slows us down, keeps the lid on a joyful life. It saps us, like a leak in the system, gradually taking away our strength, our purpose and our desire for life. In it's way, it is every bit as destructive as the force of anger. It destroys our chance for a happy life because it will not allow joy to flourish in its shadow.
So, when encountering someone who brings this mirror to you, it is important to stay with it. After all, it is this unhappy aspect of the self that is being shown and it would surely be wise to take up the opportunity.
But, Holy Smoke! Don't I feel sad enough as it is, without having to share someone else's pain! Isn't it like consciously making the decision to step off a cliff into the black oblivion, when you know you don't have to. Come on! This won't be fun... And it isn't... BUT!
To do it means to face the subtle demon of sadness. And as with all demons, if you confront them, stay with them, keep open hearted and strong, they will go all by themselves... without the fuel we feed them with our thoughts they will vanish, disappear, be gone, and the space they leave behind will fill with something called Love.